SELF STUDY

Monthly Focus ~ Accepting Responsibility

“Accepting responsibility is done through accepting. If you are accepting of yourself, if you’re accepting of who you are, right now in this moment, then it’s easy to be in that consciousness of responsibility for the moment of self, right now.”

*We will continue with this talk for the next monthly focus for April on the Master Tool of Forgiveness

Full Excerpt  ~

So let’s put one tool into the toolbox according to what Moses wants to share. So in this master toolbox of Loving, the first tool he wants to place into it is “accepting responsibility”. To accept responsibility. No, accepting responsibilities. It needs to be the word, “accepting responsibility”. It’s an ongoingness. In every given moment, be accepting responsibility. So write that down, if you want, and look and see what does accepting responsibility mean to you?

For a lot of people, accepting responsibility is really very challenging because it means having to do something that they haven’t done in their own personal life on an ongoing basis. They may have accepted responsibility at times, but to do it on a daily basis, to do it in every given moment is often a challenge. And for some people, we do everything we can to put the responsibility for ourselves back in other people’s hands rather than we having our own responsibility for ourselves. So accepting responsibility for who you are and for your actions is the first tool. Now, it’s interesting also, that the first Law of Spirit is Acceptance.

So we go to the first Law of Spirit, which is Acceptance, and we see that activated through an action of acceptance; accepting responsibility. As you look at the Laws of Spirit, you’re going to see where we’re going to begin to bring them forward in action. Accepting is an action, and accepting is the first part of this first tool; to be accepting of all things. But, the first to accept is yourself. If you don’t accept yourself, if you’re not accepting in yourself, you’re never going to really truly accept others, you’re not going to be open and receiving of others in their true self because you are not yet receiving, and loving, and accepting yourself as you truly are. So, accepting is the first part of this tool action.

Each tool, if we look at them, is unique unto itself and it has an action of its own. So, we’re going to be looking at each action of these tools, how to put them into action so that when we bring them forward, out of the Toolbox of Loving, we have an action to do to bring that tool into a living presence in our life, so it truly manifests itself in our life. And accepting responsibility is done through accepting. If you are accepting of yourself, if you’re accepting of who you are, right now in this moment, then it’s easy to be in that consciousness of responsibility for the moment of self, right now.

Write down, if you want, what that means to you: to be accepting responsibility for yourself. What responsibilities do you avoid in your life? What responsibilities have you taken on in your life? Just think about that for a moment; those two things. “What responsibilities do you avoid, and what responsibilities have you taken on?”

And look and see if the things that you’re avoiding are where your lessons truly are. And look and see that the things called responsibilities that you’ve taken unto yourself are really the way by which you avoid the lessons of the responsibilities that you don’t allow into your life. Because oftentimes, we avoid where our lessons truly reside. And a lot of our learning is in responsibility, of being responsible; being responsible for who we are and what we’re doing in our lives. And oftentimes we will take on responsibility in the world, in ourselves that are a have-to, that are a burden, that are a challenge, that are difficult, or however you might word those responsibilities, in order to truly avoid the true responsibility of self. “Well, I have to take care of this and that and the other in the world: my parents, my wife, my husband, my children, my car, my home, my job. I have all these things called responsibility.” And we forget all about the true responsibility of self, of being responsible here with us, who we are. What are our thoughts? What are our feelings? What are our actions? How are we taking care of our body? How are we nurturing our spirit? Are we giving time to ourselves individually?

So, look and see how you’re doing accepting responsibility. And look and see that the tool is activated through accepting. And then, look and see how you can begin to move the energy of responsibility in your life by accepting all the things of responsibility in your life right now; just to accept them and make them all right. Don’t have a judgment against anything that you call responsibility in your life, but make them all right. And then, once you’ve made them all right through acceptance, you can then begin to decide which responsibilities are really for you or not, which ones work for you or not. And you can begin to let go of the responsibilities in your life that no longer work for you, that you caused to come forward and be in your life in the way of you really doing your life.

Now, that can be a challenge for people because you may find that certain responsibilities that you’ve been carrying with you as you move into acceptance of those responsibilities and making it all right, you may then look at it and say, “You know, I don’t need to do that anymore in my life. I’ve been doing this for twenty years, and for the first ten it was a good action and it really worked, and I was helping them and they were helping themselves. But now, I’ve just used it as an excuse. I don’t need to be helping them anymore. But I’m in the habit, I’m in the routine, it’s just the old way. Now I need to change that.”

And you may find you’re going to cut yourself off from people or you’re going to cut yourself off from situations because that responsibility is no longer really serving you and you are no longer serving the responsibility, if you will. So, you might find once you come into acceptance of that responsibility and make it all alright, that it’s also one that you can now set down and no longer have to be doing. And that can be a challenge for people to let go of those things, and put them aside once and for all, and be free enough then to move forward into accepting the responsibility of self more. 

Monthly Focus “going Home work” ~

1. 1. Do 2.5 hours daily meditation, and listen to the talk by Jim Gordon titled:  ILM TOOLBOX: LAF
   2. Listen to the guided meditation by Jim Gordon titled: FORGIVENESS from ILM TOOL BOX: LAF
   3. Journaling exercises from Jim’s talk on Acceptance:

• • • So write that down, “accepting responsibility”, and look and see what does accepting responsibility mean to you?
    • Write down what that means to you: to be accepting responsibility for yourself. What responsibilities do you avoid in your life? What responsibilities have you taken on in your life? Just think about that for a moment; those two things. “What responsibilities do you avoid, and what responsibilities have you taken on?”
    • Journal about this: Look and see if the things that you’re avoiding are where your lessons truly are. And look and see that the things called responsibilities that you’ve taken unto yourself are really the way by which you avoid the lessons of the responsibilities that you don’t allow into your life.
    • Answer the following questions in your journal: “We forget all about the true responsibility of self, of being responsible here with us, who we are. What are our thoughts? What are our feelings? What are our actions? How are we taking care of our body? How are we nurturing our spirit? Are we giving time to ourselves individually?”

      Contemplation exercise: 

• • • Look and see how you can begin to move the energy of responsibility in your life by accepting all the things of responsibility in your life right now; just to accept them and make them all right.
    • Don’t have a judgment against anything that you call responsibility in your life, but make them all right.
    • And then, once you’ve made them all right through acceptance, you can then begin to decide which responsibilities are really for you or not, which ones work for you or not.
    • And you can begin to let go of the responsibilities in your life that no longer work for you, that you caused to come forward and be in your life in the way of you really doing your life.