SELF STUDY

Monthly Focus~ 

COMMUNICATION, COMMUNION – IN – ACTION

There’s a whole lot of even learning how to communicate in Loving, rather than just blaming, and arguing, and disagreeing. That’s not communication. 

So explore. 

The way I’ve always approached it is that through my words, as I share, do I experience the movement of Loving within me that I have known through my meditations, or through my words do I feel a door closing down, which I don’t like if that happens in meditation? That’s how I know if I’m effectively communicating or not. That’s my main source, is just looking inside and that movement within myself. That way it’s not an outer process. Communication’s not an outer process.

Full Excerpt ~

I like to call communication: communion-in-action. What’s communion? I like to also break it down and look at it as, “coming into union” – The action of coming into union. Well what do we usually think of when we think of communion, or coming into union that way? With God, right? Or our soul! That’s it! 

True communication brings us into communion, or union, with that Spirit of Loving. So, effective communication in the world can also bring us into that communion with the Spirit or the Divine in all things, just as in ourselves, but also in the Divine in others around us – to communicate, to touch into that Spirit within each individual. 

To me effective communication is a way we can, even in our words, begin to open the doors of Loving within ourselves and allow that Loving to be shared with others around us. That’s the journey, that’s the discovery, that’s the challenge and the trick, because part of that challenge and trick is, there maybe a lot of people in the world who don’t even want to do that and here you want to do it, maybe. I’m not saying you do, but I bet some of you would like to do this. The challenge can be that maybe others around us don’t want to do it. But what I have found is that, that is no concern of mine or yours. Your only concern, my only concern, is that which we do and allow the freedom for others to do what they choose to do. In other words, there’s no freedom if something is forced or put upon, or we try to control or make it happen. We try to make somebody communicate. No! We do the communicating and we can invite others. 

There’s a whole lot of even learning how to communicate in Loving, rather then just blaming, and arguing, and disagreeing. That’s not communication. 

So explore. 

The way I’ve always approached it is that through my words, as I share, do I experience the movement of Loving within me that I have known through my meditations, or through my words do I feel a door closing down, which I don’t like if that happens in meditation? That’s how I know if I’m effectively communicating or not. That’s my main source, is just looking inside and that movement within myself. That way it’s not an outer process. 

Communication’s not an outer process. We’re not trying to do or get anything from the world. We’re simply sharing our loving and in that sharing and freedom in ourselves is how we come to the greater fulfillment, how we come to the greater realizations of these challenges or issues that we have in ourselves with the world. Okay? I hope I’m saying this enough – in ourselves with the world, not the world, in ourselves with the world. 

So, in other words, another part of effective communication is ownership. Own your process. Don’t say, “Well, because what they did and what they’re doing in the world it’s causing all this distress in me.” In other words, “It’s their fault.” No! That’s not effective. That’s not going to work. That’s going to cause separation, resistance, fighting, struggle, frustration, pushing and pulling. That’s what the world’s already doing. If you want to keep staying in the world, keep doing it. If you want to get free of that, then begin to take ownership of your own process with what’s going on. Deal with your own struggles inside. Deal with them in Loving, and Acceptance and Forgiveness, and then extend that out with others. 

But again, we have to do it with ourselves first. We have to own our own feelings. Here’s another one, God first and God only, right? What’s another one we hear Jim say all the time? We’re responsible for all our thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions, right? Well this is what I’m talking about now. So we dealt with the “God first and God only”. 

Now I’m talking about responsibility; our own thoughts, our own feelings, our own actions, and our reactions. Own up to it. These are your thoughts and feelings and actions and reactions, not other people’s. Sure other people can trigger things in you, but they’re still yours. Whatever that is that’s triggered, that’s yours. Don’t expect others to change it. You can yell at them and say, “Change what you said or have done so I don’t feel this way!” Well guess what? They could change what they say or do, and maybe it doesn’t stir that in there. But guess what? That’s still in there if you haven’t taken ownership or responsibility for it by letting go of your charge of negative-positive polarity on that – your own reaction. 

So own it. That’s how you begin to become responsible. Then when you own it, guess what? You that owns it, is the soul. And what’s the soul, but Loving. So guess what happens when you own it? It comes back to the source from which it’s come. And guess what happens when creation comes back to the source? It dissolves and merges into the Oneness. It’s gone, it’s done, it’s fulfilled, it’s complete. Karma done. 

Haven’t we heard the phrases, ‘we reap what we sow’, ‘cause and effect’, ‘that which we put out comes back to us’, ‘what goes around comes around’? What is all of that saying? That is saying: we the creator, what we have put out through our actions has now caused some type of effect. And guess what karma is? And guess what? Now the creator gets to learn from what it’s created, the karmas, through participation, through Loving. And eventually all that we’ve created that goes out has to come back to it’s source, it’s creator. 

Guess what? God created the soul. And guess what each of us, as that soul, as we’ve gone out into creation, guess what? God’s bringing us back Home. That which was created will always come back to the Source. God created the soul, the soul’s gone out, and God is calling the soul back. And we’re simply answering that call when we go inside. That’s this whole pathway of Sound and Light; coming back to the Source. 

Well guess what this reflection in the world is? The God that we are, that source that is put into creation, and now that which we created has to come back to the source to fulfill the creation, to learn the lessons. That’s it. Pure and simple. 

So if you, the soul, really want to go back to God and you know this principle, you’ll want to take responsibility and ownership for all your thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions, because you’ll realize it’s up to you. And all you have to do now is own or bring back to the source, the creator, that which you created, and that will fulfill life’s journey. That will fulfill the soul’s experience through this land of reflection. 

That’s communion in action, communication, bringing it back into union with it’s creator. That’s the true action of communion. 

So communication, effective communication, even in simple ways in the world around us with other people is that which we commune with, or that which we put into action. If we put loving in the action, the loving will bring back to the source that which is the illusion we’ve created and dissolve it, unify it, complete it. If that which we put out causes reaction, disturbance in ourselves and others, guess what? We’re responsible for that. 

But how do we take responsibility? Loving, Communion, Action. Sounds like I’m on a movie set now. “Action!” That’s right, the movie set of the world – the reflection, the illusion. This is how this works. It really is a simple process. The challenge or difficulties is because we have so many thoughts, so many feelings, so many details, and experiences, that’s what causes the confusion, not the action of Spirit, not how to be loving, not the simple principles by which life functions and exists and how we fulfill it, but just the details. But that’s how we get caught up in the world and attached, because we get caught up in all the details. 

Don’t worry about the thoughts. Don’t worry about the feelings. You’re going to have all of that. Don’t worry about what all the details look like or sound like or feel like, or what we think about them. Those are just the details. Those are not what is important. Think about it. How many times, if you’ve had an argument with somebody, and you’re so focused on one little detail, and that’s the source of the problem, right? It will be if you keep focused that way. That’s not the problem. It’s our approach to that detail that’s the problem. 

So change the approach. You hear of the “attitude”. I kind of don’t use that word much anymore cause it’s gotten such a bad rap in my eyes. Instead of “attitude”, “get a good attitude”, “change your attitude”, you know we usually slap that around. I’ve seen it used in negative ways now, so I like to say, “change your approach”. How do you approach it? Do you approach it with Loving, do you approach it with reaction? It’s the approach that can make the difference. So change the approach. 

Look and discover how to bring the Loving into the details so that you get free of the details. Because once you move into the Loving, guess what? You won’t have the charge on the details anymore and then they won’t matter. They never did anyway. They only did because we were so caught up in it with the positive or negative charge. But if we approach it with Loving, Loving neutralizes it, and then it doesn’t matter. That’s the funny thing, it doesn’t matter. We’re in the land of matter, right? That’s right. When it doesn’t matter, you’re no longer caught up in the material matter. Interesting isn’t it? All these common words we throw around and say and use in our everyday language, and the meaning behind it, and learning how to work with it. 

So the other way I look at the word “communion in action”, communication – I also look at it as communification: community unification. Well what’s the community? It can be anything. There’s a community –well look at all the inner self; me myself and I. Effective communication just in yourself. Think about it. How many times per day or hour do you go into reaction with yourself? You judge yourself, you don’t like what you’re thinking, you don’t like what you’re feeling, you go into separation with yourself, you’re resistant, you struggle just internally with yourself and with things in the world, but all internally just with the “me, myself and I”. 

(Continuation on Jim’s talk)

The little kid (me) goes out and wants to play and have dessert. The adult self (myself) in there says, “No, no that’s not good for you. We don’t have time. That’s too childish.” Then the higher self (I) says, “No, let it unfold. Experience life, all of it – the good and the bad, so you fulfill it.” 

So we’ve got all these different parts of us and we need to find that alignment. 

How do we find the alignment? Communication – our own inner dialogue. What are we doing even within ourselves, our own dialogue with ourselves? Do we have Loving, Accepting, Forgiving dialogue with ourselves? Or are we always in resistance trying to force or make ourselves do things we think we should be doing even when another part of us feels totally out of agreement with that, or we know we should be doing something else but we say, “No way, I’m not going to,” for whatever reasons?

So community unification. Communication starts within ourselves even before in the world around us. That’s really where it all takes place, because once you have it lined up in here (inside), believe me, it’s a lot easier out here in the world. It’s not a challenge then. Our communications out here are just reflections of how we handle (things inside). How we handle things out here is a reflection of how we are handling things in here (inside). 

So if you don’t like the way you’re handling things out here, take a good look inside. Start to get a new inner dialogue, a new approach – to approach yourself with Loving and Acceptance and Forgiveness. And then as we come into greater unification or union with ourselves through this inner dialogue of Loving, well guess what? Again, the overflow is that we can begin to communicate with those other God selves around us, and in that communication it brings the unification – the union once again, because that’s what Loving does. It unifies. It brings it into the Oneness. 

So when we are able to truly share that light of our own soul, which is Loving, that will also stir or give a sense, an example to other souls to begin to discover the Loving that they are, so that they may participate in this “communion in action”.

Monthly Focus “going Home work” ~

1. 1. Do two and a half hours of daily meditation, and then listen to the talk from the CD titled: COMMUNION-IN-ACTION  by Brian Yeakey.
   2. Listen to the guided meditation by Brian Yeakey from: COMMUNION-IN-ACTION
   3. Journal focus for this month ~ Reflect on Brian’s sharing above and think about a disturbance (situation) in your life and answer the following questions:

• • What are you doing within yourself, your own dialogue with yourself with the disturbance? 
  • Are you doing Loving, Accepting, Forgiving dialogue with yourself? 
  • Are you in resistance trying to force or make yourself do things you think you should be doing even when another part of you feels totally out of agreement with that? 
  • Or you know you should be doing something else but you say, “No way, I’m not going to,” for whatever reasons?
  • Journal your new inner dialogue: If you don’t like the way you’re handling a certain situation in your life, take a good look inside. Start to get a new inner dialogue, a new approach – to approach yourself with Loving and Acceptance and Forgiveness.

Contemplation…effective communication is keeping the door open to the movement of Loving. Ask yourself:

• Do I experience the movement of Loving within me that I have known through my meditations, or through my words do I feel a door closing down, which I don’t like if that happens in meditation?