Jim Gordon, Excerpt from the book, “Love and Loving”, pages 106-110
Healing By Forgiveness
Because God is always present within us, the Love, the joy, and the peace of God are always alive in us as well. They are never really lost, just obstructed at times by the things of the world. If we’re not experiencing their presence, we must overcome our inner obstacles by letting go of whatever is blocking the ongoing flow of His Spirit. Forgiveness is the “magic medicine” that dissolves these obstructions and brings us the healing we need, whether in the relationships within ourselves or in our relationships with others.
A Technique for Forgiving
With eyes closed, we ask for God’s Love to be present in this time.
Next, we call forward the high self (the “I”) of the individual we hold a judgment against, and we begin to dialogue with the other person’s high self. We recall the incident that led to our conflict, and then express our desire to enter into the Loving with them – to forgive and dissolve whatever obstacles are between us.
As an example, we could mentally say to the other person, “At this time, I wish to enter into forgiveness with you. I forgive you for any and all things you may have done that caused me harm or disquiet, and I ask you to forgive me for anything I may have done that caused harm or disquiet to you.”
Of course, it is not just against others that we tend to build walls. In fact, most of the time that we hold grievances against others, we are also holding grievances against ourselves or God as well. So, after we have begun the process of forgiveness with the other person, we then call on our own higher self, again discussing the obstacles and expressing the desire to forgive and restore our partnership within.
The words we use can be very similar. We just imagine that our own higher self is standing before us, and then we might say something like, “At this time, I wish to enter into forgiveness with you. I forgive you for any and all things I may have done that caused you harm or disquiet, and I ask you to forgive me as well.”
Finally, we repeat the same process of forgiving with God. If we do this with sincerity, we will find that what happens for us is truly amazing. We may actually begin to see or feel our auras lighten up as we let go of the barriers that are being carried as karmic charges within us.
This process may only need to be done once. However, there are often many “pieces” to our conflicts, and we may find it necessary to repeat this exercise over several days or perhaps even longer. Once we discuss the incident itself, though, we should not recall it and discuss it again. In other words, while working with this exercise, we don’t want to keep putting energy into who did or who said what. Instead, we should just express it the first time and then let it go. Otherwise, we keep reliving the painful experience and may even reinforce the very judgments and hard feelings we are trying to release. As we repeat the exercise, we, therefore, want to focus more on the continuing desire to let go of any negativity we have been holding and to move more fully towards forgiveness and the restoration of Loving.
Monthly Focus “going Home work” ~
- Read the excerpt on forgiveness in the book “Love and Loving” pages 106-110 (link at the top of the page)
- Listen to the guided meditation: THE ACTION OF FORGIVENESS (link at the bottom of the page)
- Journal by writing a list of things you hold against God. Then, using the forgiveness technique above, finish the following sentence: “At this time, I wish to enter into forgiveness with you God…”